Marriage Counseling

One of the hats that a pastor must wear is the hat of a marriage counselor.  This is an area of ministry that I literally have no experience in.  Thus, when I heard about the problems of a married couple in Port St. Lucie, FL I found myself wondering how I would counsel this couple:

A Florida man awoke with a severe headache and asked his wife to drive him to a hospital, where doctors found a bullet lodged behind his right ear, sheriff’s deputies said.

“The nurse looked at him and said, ‘It appears that you’ve been shot,'” the Fort Pierce Tribune quoted St. Lucie County Sheriff Ken Mascara as saying. “And he said, ‘No way.'”

The wife, April Moylan, fled the emergency room when the bullet was discovered but later told deputies she had accidentally shot her husband as he slept early on Tuesday. She was jailed on a weapons violation charge while deputies pursued additional charges.

The husband, 45-year-old Michael Moylan, woke up with a head pain so severe he suspected he was having an aneurysm and asked his wife to take him to the emergency room, deputies said.

They arrested the wife after obtaining a search warrant and finding a gun and bloody rags in the couple’s home near the Atlantic coastal town of Port St. Lucie. The husband was hospitalized in stable condition.

There are just so many questions.  Why did she have a gun in bed?  How did he not wake up when he heard a gun go off in bed?  How did he not wake up when he was hit in the head with a bullet?  Why did she not wake him up?  If she was not going to tell him about the bullet then why did she take him to the hospital (Can you imagine that conversation?  “Dear, I think that I am having an aneurysm! Take me to the hospital!”  Oh no honey, just take a couple of ibuprophen and I am sure that you will feel better later.)?  Have they spoke since he found out his wife shot him, and didn’t even wake him up?  And on and on and on…

This couple is going to need some serious counseling, and I am quite certain that I would not want to be the guy doing the counseling.   

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